The dumbest thing some people do is to divorce without an attorney, because the advice of an attorney is very important. Other dumb things people do sometimes include hiding the children, secreting assets, trying to steal money or attempting to impose debt upon the other party. It’s unfair for parties to steal from one another or to create obligations in an illegal fashion. Another really dumb thing people do is to lose control of their emotions and fight in front of the children because that leads to continued problems in the relationship. Everyone should take a time out and go to their corner, to calm down, so that the children aren’t emotionally or physically injured or damaged.

Among the smartest things anyone can do is to hire an attorney, of course, but they should also attempt to act like adults for the sake of the children, spend time with the children and not stress. They should also try to limit their bad or risky behaviors, like consuming alcohol and doing drugs.  It’s necessary to resolve all differences like an adult and move on, because many people often rely on both parties, especially the children, and no one should believe that the absence of one of those persons in any capacity or even in a diminished capacity, would be a positive.